What's the best part of your life today?

The interviews conducted for this Wise Woman project have been delightful and insightful. I’ve met and talked with women from New York to Nebraska and as far away as Africa regarding this stage of their lives. These women answered questions with honesty and candor, and more often than not, tears fell once or twice along the way. Participants’ responses regarding the interview questions have included adjectives like reflective, retrospective, and thought-provoking. 

Some of the questions posed were for statistic gathering; other questions required only one word answers. Some queries encouraged essay style responses. Some answers came quickly, others required some time to collect thoughts and form a solid response. Some questions were light-hearted; others required a dive into the soul to wrench out the reply.

We begin the first week’s post with notes from an upbeat question: What’s the best part of your life today? Please note that all names used in the Wise Women of Age blog are pseudonyms for the surveyed women.

Ninety-five percent of the responses boiled down to a few key words – family, freedom, and knowledge.

The joy of freedom took the highest percent reflecting about 45% of responses. Several types of freedom came into play. For some it was freedom from work. For others, their freedom came with financial success, fewer obligations, and an expansion of their time. 

Several women expressed their freedom from committed relationships. Dianna and Denise were both involved in long, difficult marriages and admit that they waited too long to end them. Dianna earned her freedom from her relationship about a dozen years ago, and reports that life on her own is empowering. Denise ended a forty-year marriage just recently. She reports a relief to be out of her situation. Both women admit that financial concerns worry them because of the income loss, but their independence makes their quality of life better. Dorie was divorced, widowed, and had a third relationship that didn’t end well. She now realizes the value of the non-committed life. Connie has never been married, and although she admits to sometimes being lonely, she still values her lifestyle as liberating.

Family was high in marks for 32% percent of interviewees. Gayle suffered the loss of her only two sons and a step-son through tragic circumstances. Rose lost her mother, husband, and son to deaths all within six months of each other. Winnie is a widow with no children, but places high value on friends as family substitutes. All suffered greatly with their losses and have a true appreciation for the worth of family.  

Carol is on her second marriage and has no children, but she’s happy to be with her present husband. Gina has only been in one long-time relationship in her life and that is with her husband. With one daughter and one granddaughter and know future of adding any more into the family, she values them deeply. Dee Dee is a lifelong stay-at-home mom with two sons and five grandchildren. Her life revolves around them, and they are her greatest joy.  

Eighteen percent of respondents recognize knowledge as the best part of their life. Not surprisingly, this percentage group includes some teachers and many life-long learners. Our PBS station had a phrase “stay curious” they used in advertising a few years ago. It reflects the way this percentile thinks of life. That’s phrase has always stuck with me. I use it myself in an effort to encourage my grandchildren to look beyond their horizon. These women grasped that concept early on.

June was a second career clergy (more like third or fourth career actually), but as her life evolved and opportunities presented themselves, she reached out and grabbed everything she could get. Sandy has always worked with children. In her retirement, she uses that skillset as a board member for child care agencies and for children’s ministries in her church. Denise says, “There’s a lot of opportunities still ahead of me,” and uses her knowledge in church ministries too. Nola is musically inclined. She’s also one of those crafty women that can take an ear of corn and turn it into a door hanging or centerpiece, sews clothing, cans and preserves her farm’s produce, runs a farm stand, is active in her church, and monitors the life of her independent Down Syndrome daughter. She states, “I know a lot of things. Being able to impart that knowledge is important. I like to teach and have the confidence to do that.”

In this blessed season of joy, what is the best part of YOUR life today? What the greatest thing about YOUR life today? Does it center on these big three: Freedom, Family, or Knowledge? Alternatively, is it “other”? If so, please share what that is. You can do that by entering your thoughts in the comments below. 

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Through compassion, you will find that all human beings are just like you. - Dalai Lama